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Timothy James Holmes
December 18, 1974-January 21,2008
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Many have asked us, "How do
you stand up to the grief of losing
not just one, but two children?

My answer is in this article
How to Cope With Grief

Our 33 year old single son Tim died January 21, 2008 in Las Vegas, Nevada.

Tim last worked on Jan 15, and spoke by phone from his home to someone at his work on Thursday. It was the last we think anyone spoke to him. Tues Jan 22 his work phoned me asking for his new address so they could go check up on him. He had not come to work and they could not reach him by phone. Since he had just moved to a new home they did not have his address. They and Tim’s friend Darren along with the police had a locksmith open his home and found him dead in the bathroom. The coroner reported there were no marks on him, no drugs in the home and the door was locked so they have ruled out suicide or foul play. An autopsy was preformed and no sign of why he died. Toxicology and tissue samples are being examined and they state it will take up to four weeks to determine the cause of death. In the meantime we have collected reports from family members and friends who have told us of some symptoms that are common with diabetes. He thought they would go away and had not gone to a doctor. It is possible that he may have had an aneurism but the autopsy should have seen it if he did. The medical examiner thinks he died sometime on the 21 but it could have been before or the morning of the 22. His body has been released and should be at Myers Mortuary in Ogden by now.

Thanks to all for your love and concern for us.

Joe Holmes

Update: February 21, 2008 The Medical Examiner of Las Vegas confirmed by phone today that Tim died of Diabetes complications. Blood sugar level was 800. He did not know he had Diabetes and would not go to a doctor thinking that what ever was wrong would go away tomorrow. This means he was drinking sodas and eating his favorite red liquorice unaware that they were causing problems for him.

Tim’s Obituary

Timothy “Tim” James Holmes
South Ogden/Las Vegas - Tim passed away in his home in Las Vegas, Nevada on January 21, 2008 of suspected Diabetic complications. Tim, 33 was born December 18, 1974 in Caldwell, Idaho to Joe and Ann Holmes of South Ogden. Tim was a delight to all who knew him. He was loving and courteous to everyone. He is remembered as a dependable, happy person. He was deeply loved by all his family. He attended school in South Ogden and graduated from Bonneville High School. He loved music and played the trumpet in the school bands and the Lagoon Band. He attended Weber State and the University of Utah on band scholarships. He was an excellent pianist. He loved classical music and studying History. He was a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and was an Eagle Scout. Tim learned a good work ethic at a young age as a paperboy in his neighborhood. This helped him in his jobs later in life. He learned the carpentry trade working with his father framing houses. He worked for Southwest Sun Control in Tucson, Arizona as their sales manager. He returned to South Ogden where he ran a framing crew framing numerous homes in the Ogden area. He moved to Las Vegas where he worked for Nevada Stairs as their customer service representative until his death.
He is survived by his parents, brothers and sisters, Joanne (Lew) Stoddard, No. Ogden, Bill (Kim) Holmes, Brookfield, WI., Eric (Ashlee) Holmes, Sunset UT. and Charee (Shawn) McKay, So. Ogden, UT. 9 nieces and 3 nephews who will greatly miss “Uncle Tim”, his grandmother Iris Despain, Caldwell, Id., numerous Aunts, Uncles and cousins. He was greeted by his sister Jean, his Grandpa Despain and his Grandpa and Grandma Holmes. Viewing Tuesday evening at Myers Mortuary 6 – 8 PM. Tuesday 845 Washington. And at 9:30-10:30 AM prior to the Funeral at 11:00 A.M. January 30, South Ogden 7th Ward chapel at 720 Nancy Drive South Ogden, Utah.

To the Holmes Family

Over the past 15 years I have had the opportunity to spend a great deal of time with Tim. We have shared just about everything that friends can share. We kept no secrets. I got to know a side of Tim that few, if anyone knew. The following memories we will never forget.

In our home Tim was known as Bob. In fact, our dog- and Valleries friends at work knew Tim only as Bob. This came from Ann (his mother) calling him Tim Bob when we were teenagers. Tim did not recall this, but we asked Ann a few years back and she took my side. Bob it was.

One thing that Tim and I share is a love for sports. If there was not a game on TV we were out on the basketball or tennis court doing battle. Tim is the ultimate competitor-he hates to loose. On each occasion that I won, he made it clear that when he gets in shape I would be in big trouble. In high school he bet me that he could dunk a basketball within 6 weeks. Yes, a full size ball on a regulation hoop. This, of course, was impossible because he is built like an ox. I reminded him of this bet often, and to this day he still thinks he is only 6 weeks away. We were once at the gym on elliptical machines when he closely watched my performance to make sure that he was going faster. When we were finished with the workout, he make it very clear that he was the winner. When watching games, he was always coming up with bazaar scenarios in which his team could get a last minute miracle win. Down 24 points with 4 minutes to go? Ask Tim- he will find a way. To Eric and Bill: Tim loved harassing you about BYU sports teams. What you may not know is that he was secretly rooting for them-unless they were playing Utah. Tim taught Vallerie and I how to play poker. Valleries reckless style always seemed to beat Tims conservative grind-it-out game. This drove him absolutely crazy, as his vast poker experience should easily dominate a rookie.

Tim enjoyed cooking, and made us hundreds of dinners. He was famous for a 2 hour preparation time while using every pot and pan in the house. Vallerie once noticed that Tim was boiling whole unpeeled russet potatoes to mash. She explained that cutting them into pieces would save him an hour. His signature dish- chicken fajitas-were always worth the wait. Every few months, Tim came up with a new diet plan. Each attempt ended with a family pack of licorice.

As you all know, Tim has a passion for music. He does not often show emotion, but I have seen him tear up while listening to music many times. He never grew out of turning it up as loud as possible, but would always respectfully turn it down when we got home.

We also shared a passion for carpentry. We worked on many projects together, and I learned many tricks watching Tim work. While our tools and skill set are very different, together we could build anything. He was always the confident one, saying the project would be easy, even if he we had no clue where to start. He was right, as each project was a success. I recently decided to remodel our bathroom and Tim was a big help. It was one of the last things we did together, I will think of him every time I enter the room. Any time I needed help with something I would say "no problem, I'll just call Tim". There was never an occasion that he said no. Tim was like my left hand, I don't know what to do without him.

Over the last few years, Tim spoke frequently of his family. He loves his nieces and nephews, and mentioned on several occasions that "for some reason they like me too". There have been many occasions, the most recent being only a few weeks ago that we talked about his Mom. He has a special place in his heart for Ann and said many times that she was the nicest person in the world. Although he had a hard time communicating it, Tim loves his Dad dearly. I know he was proud of his siblings and clearly looked up to them. It was very important for Tim to better himself so they would think the same of him.

To Bob:

You have always been a brother to me. You have impacted my life like no other. I need your help more than ever. Stay with me, if only in spirit. I love you man.  Darren Wiggins (Tim's best friend)
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